Ok so here goes...this has been weighing on my mind for a few weeks and I'm going to vent here. So for those that don't know I graduated from a woman's college. Now at first this was not something I was too excited about. All of my friends growing up were guys...I was considered one of the guys. Being stuck with a whole bunch of women was not my idea of a good time. But like a good little daughter I listened to my mother who said basically don't count it out just because it's a woman's college. I went to one, your grandmother went to one, as did your aunts and your cousins. Ok, so now I have the family history to live up to too. Well when it came down to deciding which school I was going to accept I liked everything about RMWC except that it was a woman’s college and they offered me money. To make a long deliberation short I accepted their offer, sight unseen, to spend the next four years at a college I wasn’t totally sold on.
Now this does have a point I just haven't gotten to it yet. So I spent the next four years at a woman's college. And despite my reservations I had a fabulous experience. As I sit here now 2 ½ years later, fully invested in my chosen career path, I realize that I could have made no better decision for myself than to have attended RMWC. As I look back I would not change my decision on bit. With the knowledge that I have now I would return to RMWC in a heartbeat. Without the years I spent at my alma mater I would not have the strength of conviction and confidence in myself to step out on my own and pursue my acting career with the little knowledge I had about it when I moved to LA.
Now, as I continue to keep in touch with my school after graduation word comes through the pipeline that my college is having fun terrorizing all of its alums. And here's where the point comes in...first the Board of Trustees has decided that getting rid of one of the best study abroad progams we have is a great idea and second and most importantly they're considering going co-ed. Because they feel that a woman's college just isn't possible in today's society.
EXCUSE ME!!! If I as one of the staunchest contenders against going to a woman's college can have that opinion completely reversed, than there just needs to be something done to explain more about woman's colleges. I received one of the most fabulous educations you could possibly have by attending the school I did. Granted my college sits in the heart of VA in the heart of all of the many colleges situated throughout VA; which in reality makes it a fabulous place for a woman's college. You see I still had access to men whenever I wanted. ;) And it's not that they weren't allowed on the campus either. There were rules about when guys could be on campus but they were reasonable and pretty much what you would have wanted anyway. Going to a woman's college statistically produces some of the best female thinkers, politicians, business woman, and just plain people around. Woman statistically do better in a single sex education than in a co-ed. And frankly I think it has nothing to do with men, but with the woman themselves. Woman are naturally competitive and when you add men in to the mix they spend more time competing over the guys attention and with each other than paying attention and competing over their schoolwork. Every woman’s college graduate that I’ve spoken to in my circle of friends…and not just from grads of RMWC can say nothing but positive things about the experience. All of them would have repeated their education at their alma mater. There’s just something about the experience that you can’t understand without having gone to a woman’s college yourself. The longer I am away from my school the more I realize just how lucky I was that I had a mother that pushed me into doing something I didn’t particularly want to do in the first place.
Well now it’s my turn to give something back to my college. The idea that RMWC would be better off as a co-ed institution is just plain ludicrous. So I’m going to do something that is in my power to help affect a change in the Board of Trustees thinking. My goal is to make a documentary that will affect the way people think about woman’s colleges in the future. Hopefully it will help people to realize that they are a viable and beneficial option when looking into colleges. So here goes…the first statement in what looks to be a long road of things that will lead to the finish of this documentary. Through it I hope to look at woman’s colleges as they have existed in the past, in the present, and with a look towards how they will help and continue to develop in the future. I firmly believe that they are not a dying institution and that in years to come they will continue to educate many of our country’s strongest woman, both in and out of the spotlight. I intend to use RMWC as the grounds for this discussion as they are going through the crisis of conscious right now. As they look at where to go in the future, so will I along with them; looking at schools that have withstood the temptation to go co-ed as well as schools that have caved to the pressure. At the end of this project I hope to have a thoroughly enlightening film that will help to educate more people around the nation and the world. Also hopefully we can help the BoT realize that RMWC alumnae and students are not going to go down without a fight. This is just one of the ways we can show our support for a great school and a great system of woman’s college educations. I know I have some other alumns connected to my page. If any of you read this and are interested in helping in anyway…or even if you are not part of my RMWC but would like to add your support, please just send me a message. We can use all the help we can get to make sure this process is a success. Thank you.
RMWC Grad ‘03
PS - I apologize to anyone who sees this twice due to my myspace account. This is too important not to post in both places.
Ok so to start out with I am a horrible friend as apparently I should be checking this thing more often to find out what is going on with all of my good friends. I hear nothing and more than likely it's my own fault. Bad Shelby. I miss everybody but yet I haven't spent enough time checking in to see how they're doing so without futher ado...CONGRATULATIONS EVIE!!!!!!
As for me I'm home for the holidays - or at least for Thanksgiving. Basically after trading in 90 LA weather for snow on the ground WA weather I'm freezing my butt off. But still it's nice to be home with my friends and family. I haven't been home for turkey day in 7 years so I have some extended family that are about ready to excommunicate me since they haven't seen me in all that time. Oh well this is the year apparently. Otherwise I spent the weekend here at home shooting a short film which was fun. I haven't shot anything in awhile and it was nice to get back into doing something. Having coached all fall I wasn't auditioning as much, but now it's back to the grindstone. I'm feeling better about everything too which is good. So we'll see how this pilot season goes and go from there.
Now onto the cult...I'll keep this brief...but well the cult in my mind is this things called myspace that I somehow got conned into joining and it's become my lastest obsession. It's HUGE!!! I've gotten in touch with a bunch of high school friends and other people I lost touch with because of it. The big problem with it is that it's so goddamn addicting. But if any of you are on there and want to search me out...I promise I'm much better about getting back to you on there...my email is firstname.lastname@example.org. I think you can search that way. Or just drop me a line there. :) I miss everybody but I'm usually a horrible correspondant. I do try on myspace though. For whatever reason it works. Thus why I think it's a cult. I think I'm going to need to join CMA soon (Cult Members Anonnomous). ;) Love ya all. I'll again promise to TRY to update and check this more.
Sooooo...again I have not updated...and probably will not for awhile again because I'm a horrible friend and never let anyone know what I'm doing. So what have I been up to...well first off I guess is that my movie I shot last spring premiered last month which was cool. My mom and dad came into town to see the film which was really great since this is the first time I've convinced them to come see me in the "pit of hell" as they like to think of LA. Everyone seemed to really like the film, but being the perfectionist I am there were parts of my own performance I wasn't happy with. But people said I affected them and that's great since the film was a heavy drama.
Next: I've been coaching high school volleyball all fall for Los Angeles Baptist High School and I love it. I have such a great group of girls and the other woman I coach with has become a good friend because of the coaching. My JV girls have only lost one game in the season, which they lost mostly due to injury. They came back and creamed the team they lost to during the second round of league play. Our varsity has been plagued by injury this season, but now that they've gotten their whole team back their playing awesome. They've already clenched their playoff berth, now it's just a fight to figure out in what position they will go into playoffs. They are the only team to beat the league leaders all season. Way to go girls in ruining an undefeated record! Suffice to say I've learned that coaching is really something that I enjoy.
Further: As far as acting goes out here well I finally have an agent. We'll see how well they do for me. I haven't been with them that long, but so far so good. I auditioned for a theater company, Company of Angels (the oldest repretory theater in Los Angeles) and was pleasantly suprised to be accepted into the company. I've been doing a lot of tech work with them. Yay for RMWC requiring their theater people to do tech. I've basically become the go to person for lighting in the company and I think that's shortly going to be come stage managing as well. Basically I'm more obsessive than most and I won't half-ass the situation. I'm also shooting a short film with a friend when I go home for Thanksgiving. That should be a lot of fun. But I'm definitely on the hunt for my next project. :)
Continuing: On the dating front I'm back to the old boys suck situation. It kills me how often I end up there. Oh well. Someday right. For now I'm going to enjoy my single status and use the time to fully focus on my career. ;)
And another thing: Altogether things are going fairly well for me out here. I had a great Halloween dressing up as a very Kate Beckensail(however you spell her name) style vampire. I looked good it was awesome. :) Probably the most fun was getting to wear the costume at work last night and having all of my regulars looking at me like "who are you and where did you hide Shelby."
Finally: I hope things are going well for all of you, my friends, out there in the lost limbo of the world. It's been fun, but I think my laundry is done so I should go take care of that. My girls have an away game tonight so I have to be out of here early. :) Have fun y'all. :)
Ok so being someone who has never really been around people that use drugs I'm struggling a little bit right now. I have never personally tried any drug except alcohol and well that's rather tame. I really haven't been around anyone who either randomly or habitually uses drugs other than pot. And that tends to be more mellow than anything so...when for a scene I'm doing I have to play a cocaine addict, I struggle.
As I posted in one of my earlier posts I am competing in an acting competition on Thursday in Calabasas (for anyone who is in the LA area and would like to come see as it is open to the public) and the scene we've all been assigned for the competition is a scene from Magnolia. It's towards the end of the movie where Claudia and Jim are sitting in the restaurant on their date and talking about their fears that each other won't like the other one due to the fact that they both feel like fuck ups. Claudia is fuckin high as a kite as she's addicted to cocaine and has done a hit just previous to the start of the scene.
Here is the struggle though. I have no clue if I really look or come across as if I'm really trippin. And then I still have to filter all the emotional fear and self-loathing and wanting to be able to hope, through the trip I'm on. Of course for the piece de resistance I still have to make it fucking believable and clearly understandable to an audience. And I want to be an actor why?
Ok I have to admit I do love the fact that living in Cali I'm supposed to get the sunshine. But this "winter" has been ridiculous. Thank god we're finally getting out of that. It is a gorgeous, beautiful, amazing sunny day today and I couldn't be happier about it. Oh wait yes I could. I could not have to work and then could spend the day at the beach, that would be better.
But yeah, weather. I don't understand it. I mean I swear the planet turned upside down this year and all the weather that was supposed to be back home in WA is down here in CA. The mountains have a shit ton of snow. The mountain pass back home that is usually closed till May due to how much snow there is and it's avalanche country is opened with now problems as of a few weeks ago. LA has had a SHIT TON of rain. And Seattle has had none. I mean California has the 2nd highest rainfall of any state right now. That is riduculous. We don't get rain. We can't deal with it. It has been a major problem. So of course we're dripping down here and my hometown and surrounding area is going to burn all summer long because the drought up there will be so bad. We rely on the snowpack and there is none this year. Wierd is all I can say.
Ok not much to update really other than that I just want to put something up so I can force myself to get into a habit of updating with some regularity. My week pretty much sucked due to some people I considered to be good friends out here in California showing their true colors and come across as the total dicks that they really are. Basically they just said screw you and our friendship you're not worth giving the chance you ask for. So all in all screw them. Real friends would listen and give you the opportunity you kindly ask for. Thank goodness for the friends I do have out here who have been there for me all week as I've been feeling down.
Otherwise I've just been busy with work/auditioning/everything else I already have on my plate. I swear the more I try to find time to have a life the more of a life I don't have.
Meaghan, if you're reading this could you please do me a huge favor and DROP ME A LINE!!!! I have no idea how to get a hold of you at this point, or really even know how you're doing it's been so long since I've talked to you. email@example.com works. ;)
Oh well, hopefully tomorrow night I can go out and have a good time since I had to work tonight and that was just total fun let me tell you. :P Anyway it's sleepy time now. My bed is calling me. :)
Ok so here's my life in a nutshell . . . one word CRAZY!!! Ok so since Christmas I quit my second job right so that I could have more time to get back to doing what I really love which is of course my acting. I needed to spend more time with that instead of litterally going to work and then coming home and crashing cause I had no energy. So basically since January I have been a lot more focused on my acting and it's been going fabulously.
I'm currently studying at two acting studios - Joanne Baron/D.W. Brown Studio in Santa Monica is a Meisner technique training program that I will finish up at in July. It's a two year program. Also through them I've taken some master classes with Joanne that have been awesome. She really believes in my talent and has been very complimentary of my work. I am also studying at Bobby Chance's Expression's Unlimited which is also amazing. They are really behind me there as well and I showcase each week with them in front of industry professionals. Basically my classwork has been phenomenal lately and I'm really starting to feel like I'm getting somewhere with my own personal understanding of my acting.
Also I've been auditioning a lot more and it's paid off. In the last month or so I've booked three projects, two student and one independent which is super exciting. The first student project is a feature length film based on a true story. I have the lead and basically the whole story is told from my perspective. It is a high school domestic violence situation where basically my character falls in with the popular jock who becomes extremely abusive until it finally reaches a point where she feels like her life is in danger and since the school will do nothing she has to move away. Well her boyfriend starts dating someone else and when the same thing happens she tries to leave him as well and he ended up killing her in school. He stabbed her 5 times. This actually happened at a school in Texas. I am so pumped about this role it's riduculous. It's really well written and there's a lot of passion for it with the cast. The second student project is a short film that I have yet to see the script for since I just booked the film yesterday. But all you RMWC girls will find the situation as humorous and ironic as I do I'm sure. So I went in for this audition for a lead at the NY Film Academy's LA center and basically walked into the room and the girl directing the piece was like we'll just chat for a few minutes first and then you can do your monologue. Ok, great. So she's like I see you went to RMWC, what year'd you graduate? 2003. That's cool, cause I was your sister class I graduated in 2001. Talk about a shocker. For anyone that doesn't understand the significance of that, RMWC is like 800 students. We're tiny. To actually run into someone from there out here and not really have known them is wierd. Well it turns out I knew more of her than new here. Erika Slozak was a soccer/basketball/softball player so I heard her name around PER all the time in school, she went to Reading etc., but she wasn't involved in the theater in college so I never really saw her around. And now she and I will be working on this project together. YAY! The final project is an indpendent film that will be my first paying gig. :) Woohoo! I hooked up with the crew for this film randomly by following a friend to the set of a film they were shooting last year and then sticking around to make friends with the crew. Well I maintained that friendship and Greg called me into help out one day for this new film to basically act as a reader and semi audition for them since the director Roger had never seen any of my work. Well to cut the story shorter Roger was really impressed with my work and I'm now have a supporting role in the film. Though I'm playing a 14-15yr old with a crush on an actor who actually is 14 or 15. :-p So basically everything on the acting front is starting to pick up and really go somewhere. Now I just need to put some attention on finding myself and agent. :P
As to the boyfriend situation, Jake, well some of you know that we'd been having problems, not from lack of caring but due to distance. Well I went out to visit him in Vegas last weekend as he ships out this next week for the rest of his time in the navy anywhere from 2 to 6 months. He's headed over to the gulf and the trouble spots of the world. :( But after a great weekend we really both just agreed that while we love and care for each other so much we both are in too different places right now and that we really need to take some time to figure out our own lives first before we try to bring a relationship into the equation. So for now I'm single and he and I are going to stay in touch and remain close and see where things go in the future. I thing right now it's definitely the best thing for both of us as we were really living in more pain and frustration than fun and happiness toward the end. But I do love Jake and I hope things work out in the future, the best for both of us.
As to the rest of my life, there really isn't much to tell. My family is all doing well. I love where I live and the people I live with. Everyday I'm thankful that I landed in such a great place in LA with such amazing people who love and support me at all times. They are fabulous. The only downside is I do miss all my other friends and family out there in the greater world, but I will try to keep y'all posted on me and my living. I wish everyone the best and I love you all. :) *HUGS*
Ok well I'm not going to post much now other than I LIVE!!!! Shocking I know. But I'm really going to try to update my life a little more regularly. I know, I know, I've said that many many times. But this time I'm really going to try. I feel like I've lost touch with a lot of people that mean a lot to me and that's bad. Friends are the best thing in life and if you don't have them you have nothing. So to all my friends, I love you and as soon as I have some time (hopefully later tonight), I'll post a true catch up post. :)
Alright so I'm in Virginia at the moment. How I get talked into spending time in VA in August and deep humidity I don't know. But it don't matter I'm having a blast despite the heat. So I spent the weekend at Ali's wedding. FABULOUS!!!! Ali was gorgeous Joe was such a cutie, and well all the Randy-Mac girls rock. And Jake baby I know you're probably not reading this but you rock! Thanks so much for all your patience this weekend. I love you babe.
But altogether the weekend waws fabulous. The bachlorette party was typical us. Fun, alcohol, and well fun. Friday was a little nuts with getting everything going for the rehearsal dinner, but we all managed to help out as we could and no one ended up too crazy, though we feared for Ali and Emily for awhile. Saturday's brunch was brilliant, I mean Randy-Mac girls, food, relaxation, and well Helen (so adorable) sounds like a perfect combination to me. But the height of the weekend was of course Joe and Ali's wedding. She looked absolutely gorgeous in her grandmother's dress, and Joe was so handsome in his charcoal gray tux. And well Spencer could not have been more adorable. How cute is a four year old in a tux with tails. The reception was grand fun for all and we danced the night away with all our old hits from college as well as just fun dance music. Of course the ring pictures were taken, the fight song and school song were sung and everyone looked at all of us as if we were nuts. But we didn't care and we all send Ali and Joe our best as they start their new lives together. They do make a perfect couple...hmmmm so whose next????
For now I'm down at RM with Erin Procopchak for a couple of days before heading back to Norfolk to spend a little more time with Jake and then back to LA for more of my crazy life. Chat at y'all later. :)
Ok so today has been a bad day from the start. Just one of those days where everything goes wrong. Work was nuts but not in a good way and I got cut like an hour later than I should so basically I was sitting around being bored and making no money after having little idiot things go wrong (like glasses falling off of trays for no reason and breaking). Only to go home for like an hour and try to take a nap and fail. Then I tried to get excited about the softball game I was going to go play in and finally managed it. So I go to the game only to deal with the shittiest part yet. So because we lost the last game we played (because we actually played everyone that wanted to play regardless of ability) the boys needed to prove that they had cocks and decided that they were going to only play the A team. Well there are basically 3 girls that can play; Stacey, Tina, and me. Well since the other team only had one girl the boys decided that that meant we only had to play one girl. Fine. But at least then rotate those of us girls that can play, since you are rotating the guys that can play. But no, they only played Stacey so bascially I sat around for 3 hours doing nothing. Then they put up the 2nd team to play after 1/2 the people had left cause they were pissed off about the situation. And could any of the A team stay to watch the game. Not hardly. So then to top of the evening I managed to pull my hamstring quite nicely and so I'm sitting here in pain and icing my thigh. So I'm tired and grouchy and well to be blunt bitchy, so I'm going to go to bed now and sleep.